Honesty is a test of love. It is also a test of fear. Honesty is not about expectations or judgements, but awareness of your self.
Honesty is not found in revealing the truth, but in understanding how deeply afraid of it we are. Where we cannot go in our mind, our memory, or our body is where we cannot be straight with another, with the world, or with our self.
The fear of loss, in one form or another, is the motivator behind all conscious and unconscious dishonesties: all of us are afraid of loss, in all its forms, all of us, at times, are haunted or overwhelmed by the possibility of a disappearance, and all of us therefore, are one short step away from dishonesty.
Every human being dwells intimately close to a door of revelation they are afraid to pass through. The ability to speak the truth is as much the ability to describe what it is like to stand in trepidation at this door, as it is to actually go through it and become that beautifully honest spiritual warrior, equal to all circumstances, we would like to become. (Inspired by the poetry of David Whyte)