As soon as people are cut off from one parent or both, they lose energy and strength. Constallation restores the connection to what was separated. How is that possible? The first thing is that helpers themselves are in connection with their parents and their ancestors, and also with their fate, their guilt, and their death. (Bert Hellinger)
Hello Folks, my name is Zaquie. I am one of first generation of constellators in Brazil who helped bring this work throughout the whole country as a sociologist, journalist and psychoanalyst.
Below is my description of one constellation my group recently did on Brazil, Time, Aging, and Youth. I felt it was profound and very revealing.
Brasil strongly clings to values such as Beauty and Youth (sometimes these concepts merge into one) above other values such as the dignity of aging, wisdom gained from experience, respect for older people, etc. There is an incredible effort directed towards beauty, body, and youth.
Today, according to statistics, only 30% of our population is younger than 24 years old. A generation ago it was almost 50%. Even though the population is aging, Brazilian society devalues the qualities of older people. TV, films, news reports and other popular media glorify the importance of youth and beauty while portraying our older people in a negative light. There is an urgent need to direct politics, social programs, and health services to the population that it is aging fast. As a sociologist, I felt raising this issue in a constellation could have a positive impact on our country and on the needs of aging people.
Of course, I am one of them.
We started with the concepts of Beauty/Ugliness/Time, Brasil. Later representatives were added for Aging, Men and Women, a Child. The first movement was Ugliness moved outside of the constellation wanting to leave. It seemed there was no place for it. It didn't belong anywhere. We realized that this concept is only in the eyes of the beholder. There is no such a thing as "ugly" or "ugliness." Big relief to confirm this.
As a second movement Beauty did the same. It moved around looking for a space to stay, but it also could not find a space and left. Beauty is also in the eyes of the beholder. It does not exist "per se." How interesting. Brasil approached Aging carefully. The more it approached, the stronger it felt. There was a need to feel strong, and Brasil realized its strength felt "stronger" when it stood closer to Aging.
(Comment: in the past Brasil saw itself as a young, undefended country, childishly happy, ill-prepared, good music, good food, happy life. However there were huge segments not being looked at, not being acknowledged to the outside. With its now aging population, there is a need to adapt, to accept its presence as a positive mature position. And we see this in our politics more and more.)
A man, a woman and a child, were added to the constellation. They held hands. Man felt very attracted to Time; he looked at Time as if it were hypnotized. Woman looked at Time and at Man. The two sense Time differently. Man is for action; woman is for herself and for him, perhaps. This movement did not last long. Soon they both approached Brasil. First, man was comfortable being on the right-side. However he started to feel a pressure on his head and decided to move to the left-side, allowing the woman to be on the right. She moved slowly and comfortably to the right-side of Brasil. When she did this, Brasil smiled. Needless to say our president is a woman. For a long time, Brasil was known as a "macho" culture country. This, clearly, is changing. Maturing. Accepting women as equal.
While this was happening, Time was circulating among all of them. It was encircling and surrounding all other representatives making a figure-eight pattern: the infinite.
Suddenly, Time went so fast that it seems there was no difference from beginning or end, birth or death . It went so fast that we couldn't know where it started. Where was the beginning of this? All was the same. All was one. Somehow the child visibly became Birth and Aging became Death. Clearly Time was in cycles, coming and going. Today is birth. Tomorrow is Death. Death tomorrow is Birth and so on. No beginning. No end. Only the Infinite. No beauty. No ugliness. No better or worse.
All in One.